At The Well – Friendship in Your Family

Gathering At the Well

This week’s questions At The Well are:

What is your definition of friendship?
Did you follow the belief that we should not be friends with our children? Has that changed?
In what ways can we befriend our husbands and children?
What can we do to teach those skills to someone else?

I think parents should be friends with the children. When I was growing up, I wanted to be able to talk to my parents about anything. I didn’t have this kind of relationship with them, so I thought then that when I have my own kids, I want to be friends with them. I want to know what is happening to them, to be there for them and to be of help to them.

Now that I have my own kids, even though they are still small, I am making it a habit that I talk to them about anything and that I am there for them to answer their questions. That I am there to offer comfort. I am not an expert in this so I try reading posts from mothers who had been there and what they advice.

My hubby is my best friend, and I believe I am his. We can tell each other anything and know that we are loved. Between my hubby and me, he is the more “vocal” one. I listen to him and offer my advice when he needs or when he asks for it. I encourage him when he is down or remind him what he has forgotten. We are partners and I think friendship has a huge part in making our relationship strong.

I am not sure how to teach this to someone else. Maybe, when someone asks for advice, I can share my own story to them. Anyway, that is one of the reasons why I have put up this blog.

Head to At The Well to check what others are saying.

Comments

  1. Beth in NC says:

    Your post is much sweeter than mine. Sigh. You are a sweetie.

    Love,
    Beth

  2. I believe you are right on and it is so important that if we didn’t have maybe great examples in our own parents that doesn’t mean that we have to become who they were….we can learn and be different…different IN GOD.

    Lovingly,
    Yolanda

  3. My husband and I are really close, too (though I’m the more vocal one, lol!).

    I really want to be there for my kids, too. I want them to be able to come to me for anything and know I’ll love them. Growing up, it meant a lot to me that my parents said that nothing I could do would make them stop loving me. I’m glad you know that’s what you want to do with yours! 🙂

    God bless!

  4. I think in developing a friendship with our children, we are able to keep them close to home and they most likely will not want to delve into worldly things that will take them away from family and God.

  5. a woman found says:

    this is something i’m learning to do more and more too! it really feels good to be friends in your own family!

    thanks for sharing!
    shiela

  6. Laurie Ann says:

    Great post! I wish I’d had these tips when I was a young wife and bonus mom…

  7. I hope my girls feel like they can come to me too. That’s why the friendship element of parenting is SO important. Great idea to start it young….

  8. Great thoughts about being a friend to your family. My family (my husband and my kids) are my closest friends, but there were times when my kids were younger that they didn’t always feel this close to me as I had to discipline, and say no from time to time. But now that they are older… they tell me how much they appreciated the correcting and the discipline, but mostly the love.

  9. Amy Bayliss says:

    You make some excellent posts, Chris! I too wish that I would have had a better relationship with my parents when I was younger but it doesn’t stop me from being a good parent to my boys.

    Have a great week!

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