Motherhood from Another Perspective #2

I am excited because our guest blogger today is Nan. Nan has been a “mentor” to me through her posts and we have exchanged some emails too. I am glad to meet her online and hope you enjoy her post as much as I do!

Hello! I am Nan from Mom’s The Word and I am thrilled to be a guest blogger for Chris today. My husband and I have two boys aged 16 and 20. I homeschool the youngest and homeschooled the oldest until he graduated. He is now in college.

My kids were ages one and five just yesterday. I know it. Somehow they just grew up overnight. I don’t know, maybe I was in the bathroom shaving my legs or something and I missed it.

I blog about all sorts of stuff. My Savior, my family, my friends, organization, frugality, homemaking, homeschooling, chocolate, hairy legs and acrylic nails…..but through it all I hope you will find laughter, enouragement, and fun!


Being a mom seems to be filled with contradictions.

You can’t wait to wear maternity clothes……then you can’t wait to get out of them.

You can’t wait to get your figure back……then you can’t wait to have another child and lose it again.

You can’t wait until your child goes down for a nap….then you can’t wait until they wake up.

You can’t wait until they are able to hold the bottle…….then you miss holding it for them.

You can’t wait until they can crawl…..then you miss it when they couldn’t go anywhere.

You can’t wait until they can walk……then you wish they’d stay in one place.

You can’t wait until they can talk……then you wish they’d be quiet sometimes.

You can’t wait until they go to school……then you can’t wait until they come home.

No matter how much you try to cherish the moment, there are just so many precious moments and they go by so fast. One moment you are nursing a baby, then practically overnight this child is walking, talking, and gaining independence faster than you want them to. “Mommy let me do it” is something you will hear over and over.

To be a mom is to forever have your heart go wherever they go. Whenever they walk out the door, your heart will go with them. They will be in your thoughts, your prayers, your hopes and your dreams.

They will be the stuff that guilt is made of. Guilt because you raised your voice at them, guilt because you’re leaving the house without them, guilt because you wish they’d go to sleep so you could get some rest, guilt because you served a frozen dinner instead of making it yourself, guilt because you wonder if you’re doing everything “right,” guilt because you’re feeling guilty. A tired mommy is a guilt trip waiting to happen.

We love our children so much that we want to be the “perfect” mother, and when we fail, we feel bad. We feel that they deserve better. We get trapped in a downward spiral of guilt, frustration, tears, defeat, and lack of sleep.

When you have days like that, just remember that you don’t have to be perfect. Stop saying bad things about yourself. Honestly, would you talk to someone else the way that you talk to yourself sometimes? Would you be as hard on someone else as you’re being on yourself?

Don’t live out of your emotions. Live out of your faith. Faith that God has given you the wonderful gift of being a mother, and you can turn to Him when you are having a difficult time. Remember that none of us is perfect, and we all have our moments. Remember that you love those kids, and they know it, and let go of the mommy guilt so that you can move forward.

Remember that you are their mom, and you love them, and accept that there will be those times where you feel you have failed at something. There will be times when you need to say “I’m sorry, will you please forgive me” to your child, and this is a lesson that your children need to learn. They need to see you fail sometimes, so that they can learn the joy of giving forgiveness and being forgiven. So that they can learn humility. So that they can accept that they, too, aren’t perfect, and that there is only One Who is.

MomsTheWord

Comments

  1. momstheword says:

    Chris, thank you for blessing me with the opportunity of being a guest blogger!

    I am going to link to this post tomorrow (Wednesday) since it came out at noon, my time. Thank you again, my friend, it was an honor!

  2. Alicia, The Snowflake says:

    Great post! Nan is such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing her with us!

  3. Beth in NC says:

    Awwww, great post Nan! (She is a nutty buddy of mine.)

  4. nan is such a great mom and she just published a very great post too.

  5. Nice post, I will visit her blog soon,btw I have something for you here http://emotemylife.blogspot.com/2009/07/elite-blog-artist-award.html

    have a lovely day!!!

  6. Such a great post.

  7. I love the post, that's true! I agree to all the words written, thanks Nan and Cris for hosting.

  8. this is such a great post! all shes sharing is what all moms are undergoing.she is such an inspiration. Ill go and visit her site now.

  9. I enjoyed reading this about Ms.Nan.Thanks for sharing her Blog to us.:)

  10. Clarissa says:

    Great post!!Thank you for sharing her with us!!^_^

  11. Amen to everything she said. I'll go visit her blog now.

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