Motherhood from Another Perspective #3

My guest blogger for this week is Andrea, she is the author of MomWriterMe.blogspot.com. I hope you enjoy her post as much as I do!



Hi! My name is Andrea and I’m the mother of one son (so far!), Logan. He was born on April 18, 2008. I admire Chris as a mom, so I am honored to be a guest blogger here today!

Motherhood has been an amazing experience for me the past fifteen months. When I first had my son, the most common words I heard from others were, “Enjoy it because it goes too fast.” Wow, I understand! For me, the second year is going even faster than the first because he is moving so fast! Sometimes I get so busy working at Logan’s pace that I have to remind myself to stop – so that I can continue to savor our moments! This is hard even as a stay at home mom.

I didn’t realize until my son was ten months old that I had “too high” of expectations for myself. Until then, I had put forth 100% with a smile on my face every day being Logan’s mother – but that left 0% for me or my husband! At that point, my enthusiasm began to drop and I was extremely exhausted. Our families don’t live close enough to babysit, and I hadn’t felt comfortable hiring one. After having a very “down” month, I realized I needed to change my expectations to match my reality in order to continue being my best self and mom.

A week after Logan turned eleven months old, he began going to a babysitter’s house 8 hrs a week. He also began spending the entire weekend with my parents once a month. It was hard to admit I needed help. Even though that amount of time was peanuts in the grand scheme of things (we were still spending the majority of our time together, which was what was most important) – I felt like I must be a failure as a stay at home mom.

But after just four occasions at the babysitter’s, Logan no longer cried when I said goodbye – in fact, nowadays he can’t wait to run off with the other kids. When I pick him up, he smiles and waves to me, but waits five minutes before coming over to go home. It’s very obvious that he has so much fun there, it’s no different than if I dropped him off at a friend’s house one day a week. I realize I did something positive for the both of us. Not only is he getting to play with different toys in a different environment, but I find various things to do by myself during those hours that give me new energy so that I can happily chase my energizer bunny around when he comes home.

Are you putting unnecessary pressure on yourself with a situation in your own life? Sometimes what we thought was best in our mind doesn’t turn out to be in real life. Instead, we may discover that if we make an adjustment to our original plan, we will be the most successful!


My blog is all about this theme – from my pregnancy (that for some reason I thought was going to be fun. . .however, my definition of fun doesn’t include all-day, debilitating sickness for the first one-and-a-half trimesters and excruciating back pain for the last one-and-a-half), childbirth (my plan had been to do it natural, and after I dilated in just three hours I thought the hard part was behind me. However, my son was posterior and my pelvis was small, so it took an additional four hours to push him out! The only way, since I didn’t want a c-section, was to get an epidural so that my doctor could help pull him out), breastfeeding (I thought since it was natural it wouldn’t end up being the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life for nine months!), and raising my son (I thought the first year would be overwhelming and I’d get post partum depression. Instead, I was on a high! I found motherhood surprisingly easy and natural. Since that eleventh month, though, when he started going to the sitter’s, I’ve been thankful I get a break each week.)

I love being a mom and can’t imagine that there is anything in life more worthwhile. I used to think my purpose was being a writer, but after having my son I truly know what life is really about. I thank God every day for blessing me with the greatest experience on earth!

Comments

  1. I enjoyed your guest blogger.

  2. Thank you so much!!! 🙂

  3. I love Andrea's blog. She is a very talented writer. Thank you for featuring her!

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