Tips For Coping With Tweens

When you have tweens at home, you start wondering what you did wrong. They are impatient with you, embarrassed by you, and absolutely refuse to listen to you. They will hate anything you get for them at Sammy Dress even if they look great in it. They bear no resemblance to the cute, cuddly, loving children they were a bare year before. You are afraid that you are losing control over them and something bad will happen. Here are some tips to help you cope.

It’s not you, it’s them

Tweens are at an awkward age. They are not yet “grown up” but neither are they kids anymore, and no one is more frustrated by it than they are. The next time they snap at you for something you say or do, don’t start soul searching. You probably didn’t do anything wrong. However, don’t let them get off scot-free, either. Give them “the look” to let them know you are not pleased.

Give them space

Tweens are gawky, clumsy, and extremely self-conscious. This is not the time to be all motherly or concerned. Every time you show them attention, they react defensively, and may say or do hurtful things. To keep the peace, give your tween space. If they feel that you are not going to coddle them, they will feel more relaxed. They might even want you to come to their game if they’re sure you’re not going to embarrass them in front of their friends.

Wait to be asked

Mothers know best. That’s a given. However, if you want to avoid alienating your tween, avoid giving unsolicited advice or opinions. They are more likely to run counter to it just for the heck of it. Keep an eye and ear open to what is happening to them, but be discreet about it. Let them know in subtle ways that you are there for them anytime they need your help or advice, or just want to talk. They are more likely to do that if you don’t make it an issue.

You will always be a mother to your children. However, there is a time and place for everything. To keep your cool when dealing with tweens, you have to be a cool mom and chill.

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