CSM Publishing sent me a copy of Mr. Steve Murrell’s book, My First, Second & Third Attempts at Parenting. I know Mr. Steve Murrell is the founder of Every Nation Churches and Ministries but aside from that, I had no idea what to expect. As I know that this book deals about parenting, I gladly took the book and read it.
I thought this book would be like other parenting books filled with how-to or strategies in raising godly children but I was pleasantly surprised that the approach was quite different. The whole book dealt mostly about the heart of parents. Mr. Murrell used his personal reflections and stories to help me search through my own heart as I read every chapter.
The book is subdivided into 3 parts which includes History, Heart and Home. History is filled with stories of the Murrell family. It allows us to take a glimpse of the personal attempts at parenting his 3 sons at various stages of their life and ministry. The chapters also showed what it was like to raise American children in the Philippines. Heart includes discussion about God’s heart, the children’s heart and the parent’s own heart. The bulk of this part focuses on the heart of the parents. There is a lengthy discussion about the roles of parents and the proper attitude of parenting. What really caught my attention was the deadly diseases that can undermine efforts of parents. Legalism, compromise, favoritism, passivity and idolatry were all discussed clearly. Every issue is dealt with specifically. Home discusses discipleship issues and leadership development. All parents are reminded that discipleship and leadership development starts at home. At the end of the book, as parents, we are reminded that our ultimate goal is to please God and we can do that as we discover the heart of parenting.
I personally think this book can be a good book to read with fellow parents. There are discussion questions at the end of every chapter. Questions that will help you deal with heart issues and challenge you to take necessary actions.
I would recommend this book for parents with children ages 10 and above. The issues you will deal with as you enter the more challenging tweens and teens phase are mostly discussed in this book. It is a handy book that you would want to read as you enter the more exciting season of your parenting life.
After reading this book, I hope that I am challenged to become more authentic as a follower of Christ and a better influencer in the life of my children for Christ.