At the Well – Are My Motives Pleasing You God?


Today’s Gathering At The Well is all about checking our motives. Here are some of the questions we need to ask ourselves:
Do you go to church to fulfill an obligation?
Do you get involved to get a reaction from someone; possibly pity, recognition or even money?
Do you volunteer in your child’s classroom to analyze the new teacher or is it to help?
Do you share prayer requests for a chance to gossip or because you truly care and are praying?

We justify our actions by appearances; God examines our motives.
Prov 21:2 The Message


Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart
1 Sam 16:7 NIV

I have been a Christian for some time now, and sometimes, things that I do are done on “auto” mode. Do you know what I mean? Like, going to church on Sundays or being part of a ministry or doing good things or being part of a small group are all done because that is what I am supposed to do. Today’s topic has allowed me to do a soul searching.

I know that God always looks at the heart rather than on what someone does or says. It is humiliating that sometimes I just do things without even thinking about it anymore. Forgive me Lord for doing things half-heartedly. Help me to examine my motives daily. Forgive me for acting out from impure motives. May the Holy Spirit convict my daily and help me to refocus on You.

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At The Well – Titus 2: 2-5

Gathering At the Well

Today is the start of the “new” At The Well! I’m quite excited with the updates and changes 🙂 If you are curious about what this “At The Well” is all about , let me share this with you, taken from At The Well’s site…


This, Ladies, is the HEART of At the Well.

My prayer is that this will be…
a place to talk, laugh, maybe cry a little,
a place of comfort,
a place to share,
a place to listen,
a place to glean wisdom
from those that have been-there-done that,
a place to share wisdom
that God has whispered (or shouted) in your ear
a place to exchange ideas and lessons learned
a place to pour out your heart and maybe even heal a broken one.
a place to feed your soul and nourish your spirit.
a place to drink in His living water.

Today’s topic and questions are:
When you read the Scripture found in Titus 2: 2-5,

2Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.

3Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.


how do you see this playing out in your own life?

I have always believed that older women should mentor younger women. When I was younger, I have always sought the advice of older Godly women who have been-there and done-that. Now, I am still praying and hoping that God would lead me to someone who can be my “Paul” and someone who can be my ” Timothy”. I want to be mentored and I am looking for someone I can disciple and mentor. I just recently joined a small group in our church, hopefully, through this gathering, God would lead me to these people.

What are your areas of strength? Of weakness?

Strength — I love taking care of the family. I love keeping busy at the house. I love organizing the house and looking after the kids. I love supporting my husband in reaching his goals and in whatever way possible.

Weakness — I think all areas are my weakness. I guess I am a work-in-progress. I need to study and learn more about God’s word. I need to spend more time with God so I can be more self-controlled, pure, be more submissive (and the list goes on). I need to learn to cook (yes, I do not know how to cook!). I guess one major area of weakness is self-control. I need to be more disciplined on how I use my time. And when I am losing my patience, especially after a long day… need to have self-control.

If you could set some sort of goal in relation to this Scripture, what would it be?

I am starting a new Bible reading plan. I am cutting down my time using the Internet and using that time instead to read God’s Word and books which help me to grow as a Christian.

Other goals, hopefully, I will be able to find my accountability partners soon too. So I can have someone check on me 🙂

Make sure to go to At The Well to see what others are saying about Titus 2:2-5.

At The Well Grand Re-Launch!


If you have been following my blog, you would have noticed that I have joined At The Well every Monday. It has been awhile since I last posted about it. The reason is that At The Well was under renovation for some time. But the long wait will be over! On February 2, Monday, the new At The Well site will be launched!

Along with this,there are lots of prizes to be given away!

Check out the following prizes:

A brand new blog facelift valued at over $50
donated by Doodlebug Designs

A custom blog card (or mom card, if you don’t blog) design, valued at $30. You’ll receive a high quality .jpg, .png or .pdf file – you can do the printing yourself or have them printed online or locally – the options are endless. Print only as many as you need!
The file is yours to keep.
donated by Simply Amusing Designs

“Fill ‘Em Up!” … a “cookbook” for parents to use with kids which includes a devotional/Bible study that goes along with each recipe.
donated by Heavenly Homakers

A signed copy of the book “The Devil in Your Garden”
donated by Natalie Witcher from I AM (not)

A digital scapbook dowload package
donated by The Digital Scrapbook Place

A $25 Starbucks gift certificate
donated by At the Well

To learn more about At The Well, click here.

At The Well – Resolutions


Today’s At The Well host is Laura Lee of LauraLee’s Lifesongs. The questions discussed today are:

1. What is your favorite “resolution” in the Bible?

2. Do you do a New Year’s resolution? Why or why not? Does
your family make a resolution together?
3. Usually a resolution comes as a result of regretting
something you didn’t do the year before…how do you let go of the regret and
move forward?
4. (optional…only if you wish to share) Have you ever
made a resolution in the past that you didn’t keep and wish you had?

We were told that we can choose any of the questions or answer all of the questions or just talk about the new year.

The new year always gave me a sense of hope and optimism that “this year, its going to be different!” But somehow, as the new year becomes “not so new”, the optimism wears off. Resolutions or resolving to do things differently have never worked for me. Not being able to keep my resolutions has been a humbling experience for me. It taught me how weak I really am and how much I need God in my life. It opened my eyes to the real “state” of my life as well. I believe that resolutions alone can not help me achieve what God wants me to do or the changes I need to do. Only through the grace of God can real changes happen. I pray and ask for His guidance and leading in my life daily. Little by little I see that goals become reachable and changes happen.

I believe that this year, God has led me to make goals for each month. Instead of making my usual year long resolutions, I am making goals per month.

For the month of January, I have these goals relating to my spiritual life:
– more time to read and study the Bible daily
– join a growth group in our church
– finish reading “Transforming Grace” book
– do at least one act of random kindness and share the love of Christ
– pray for one particular person the whole month
– listen to God more

My favorite “resoultion” in the Bible is Acts 20:24 “I consider my life worth nothing to me, if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me—the task of testifying to the gospel of God’s grace.”

Want to know what others are saying about resolutions? check it out here.

At The Well – Purity


Today’s At The Well is hosted by Heather from Emotional Purity. Here are the questions she asked:

  • What are ways we exhibit this type of purity in our relationships with others?
  • What are some of the roadblocks we run into when having a “clear conscience” with God and man?
  • Would you like to share a story of how God has called you to have a pure conscience and the outcome of your obedience.

    Being pure in a world like ours is very difficult. In fact, it is impossible. Everyday, we encounter different sorts of people. Some are easy to get along with, some are just difficult. We respond to people based on how they interact with us. Sometimes, it is also based on our circumstances. We become grumpy when we have a bad day. We become judgmental towards others. We may show favoritism towards the people we like. We talk behind the back or gossip about other people’s lives. And the list can go on and on.

    God has commanded us to be pure in thoughts and in our speech. We are to have integrity. We are to be sound. I believe we should regard one another with respect. We must not let our prejudices get in our way. It is so easy to say it but it is quite hard to accomplish.

    I know that I can only do this when I have the love of Christ in my heart. I pray that may God change my heart. Make my heart be more like Christ’s. May the love inside burn away the self-righteousness and selfishness. So that when I have the opportunity, I will be able to show purity in speech, thoughts and actions. So that God would be glorified in me.