Parenting 101 God’s Got An Answer For That : Teaching Kids How to Use the Bible to Solve Problems

It was a privilege to be invited by OMFLit Publishing to attend a free parenting talk a few weeks back at their Boni branch, God’s Got An Answer For That: Teaching Kids How to Use the Bible to Solve Problems.

Amor Alvarez is the first speaker and he is a pastor at Christ Jesus Our Life Church. He also works at OMF Lit Publishing. He shared about how we can apply Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” in our parenting.  

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  1. Tell them about Jesus by reading His word. There are many age-appropriate Bibles available and choose one that fits your child’s age and interest.
  2. Patiently answer their questions. Answer truthfully and simply. If you avoid answering their questions, they will go to Google, social media or their friends to find out the answer.
  3. Read together especially when they’re young. This builds a love of reading in your children. Put your books at a reachable place. If you are not available, record your voice in an app and let your child listen to you read even if you are not there.

The second speaker is Ms. Angel Santos. She is the current children’s ministry head from GCF Ortigas.

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She shared her parenting tips through the acronym INTENTIONAL.

Intimacy with God.  We need to grow personally so we can teach our children. Do our children see us praying and reading God’s Word?

Nurture your children.  Children stay out of the house because they don’t have a relationship with their parents. It is important to know your children’s love language and let them know they can express themselves at home.

Train them consistently. Do it daily.

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xemplify Christ-like behavior. Be more kind, gentle, loving and have integrity.

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ourish them spiritually. We should not delegate nourishing our children to the church as this is the parent’s responsibility. They need to know the Bible is part of their life, not just as stories but also they need solid doctrine. Help them to do quiet time and disciple them.

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each them about real life. Help them understand that life is not perfect and how to deal with disappointments, difficulties and despair. Also teach them to dream and hope in God.

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nvest time in relating to your children. A child would view God with the way the child relates to parents. If parents is always busy, then the child would view God as always busy. If the parents are distant, the child would view God as distant.

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ffer them to God. We need to remember that our children are not ours, but God’s. Let’s entrust them to the Lord’s care and point them to His Word. Let them realize that the Word of God has everything that they need to know.

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ever entrust your children’s future to others. Be proactive in teaching our children.

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ffirm their value. Help them come up with goals and remind them of challenges they will encounter and walk with them on these challenges.

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ift them up in prayer. We must pray for every area of their life.

 

Birthday Party Preparations

Birthday parties are one of the favorite events of children. As parents, we want to prepare the best party for our kids. There are many things to decide and choose. From the the venue, the invitation, the food, the cake, the program, the prizes, the guest list and even the gifts. So how are we going to ensure that the party will be a party for our child and not just one where the parents enjoy?

  1. Talk to your child. Ask what sort of celebration does your child want on her birthday? Is it a party? Where does she want to spend the day? Who does she like to invite? What does she want to do?
  2. Plan and prepare. Upon knowing what your child wants, research for possible venues and find out if what you have in mind actually fits your budget.
  3. Reserve and send out invitations. Prepare the logistics and send out invitations so people can save the date.
  4. Enjoy! Make sure that you and your family enjoy the party you organized for your child. It is her special day and it is important that she feels how much you do love her.

Birthdays are wonderful opportunities for us to share our time with loved ones and preparing for it will ensure that this opportunity will be well spent.

 

 

Hopes and Dreams for Our Children

As parents, we all have hopes and dreams for our children. We want them to become successful in their life and be happy with whatever paths they have chosen.

When they are young, we hope that they would do well in school and get good grades.

When they are in the teenage years, we hope that they would find good friends and stay out of trouble.

When they are in college, we hope that they would excel in their chosen course.

When they are working, we hope that they would find a good paying job or start a business of their own and prosper.

When they in the marrying age, we hope that they would find their perfect life partner.

When they become parents, we hope that they would be good parents to their own children.

 

It is inherent in parents to want the best the world has to offer for our children, but I realized that as Christian parents, we must aspire for them to become who God has set them out to be. We need to have a shift in our own perspective.

While they are young, teach them the Word of God so that when they are old, they will know the way they should go.

While they are in the teenage years, help them to find their identity in Christ and not conform to the patterns of the world.

While they are in college, encourage them to excel in the field that God has put in their hearts.

While they are working, remind them God’s call for their lives and that they need to do their best for the glory of the Lord.

While they are in the marrying age, to find a partner who would help them grow closer to Christ and have the same value system as they do.

 

It is a reminder to us parents, that if we want our children to pursue what matters in eternity, we should start talking to our children about these things while they are young. It doesn’t come automatically so as parents, we are to intentionally guide our children’s worldview. And then, we need to entrust our hopes and dreams for our children to the great God who is sovereign in our lives.

“I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.

3 John 1:4

 

 

Tips For Coping With Tweens

When you have tweens at home, you start wondering what you did wrong. They are impatient with you, embarrassed by you, and absolutely refuse to listen to you. They will hate anything you get for them at Sammy Dress even if they look great in it. They bear no resemblance to the cute, cuddly, loving children they were a bare year before. You are afraid that you are losing control over them and something bad will happen. Here are some tips to help you cope.

It’s not you, it’s them

Tweens are at an awkward age. They are not yet “grown up” but neither are they kids anymore, and no one is more frustrated by it than they are. The next time they snap at you for something you say or do, don’t start soul searching. You probably didn’t do anything wrong. However, don’t let them get off scot-free, either. Give them “the look” to let them know you are not pleased.

Give them space

Tweens are gawky, clumsy, and extremely self-conscious. This is not the time to be all motherly or concerned. Every time you show them attention, they react defensively, and may say or do hurtful things. To keep the peace, give your tween space. If they feel that you are not going to coddle them, they will feel more relaxed. They might even want you to come to their game if they’re sure you’re not going to embarrass them in front of their friends.

Wait to be asked

Mothers know best. That’s a given. However, if you want to avoid alienating your tween, avoid giving unsolicited advice or opinions. They are more likely to run counter to it just for the heck of it. Keep an eye and ear open to what is happening to them, but be discreet about it. Let them know in subtle ways that you are there for them anytime they need your help or advice, or just want to talk. They are more likely to do that if you don’t make it an issue.

You will always be a mother to your children. However, there is a time and place for everything. To keep your cool when dealing with tweens, you have to be a cool mom and chill.

Deciding What Gift to Buy

ID-100162269Buying gifts for some of the people in your life can be a very difficult chore. You may not know the person very well. In these cases, you have to take steps to find a suitable gift. There are a number of things you can do. You may also have to buy something for a friend or family member who is extremely picky about the gifts he or she receives. So how do you get these people a gift they will be pleased with? Here are some of the best ways you can go about deciding what gift to buy.

1. Do not spend too much money

If you are really unsure of what to buy, do not not spend too much. It is very dangerous to just cross your fingers and hope the person will like what you are buying for them. If you do this, there is a very good chance they will not be enthusiastic about your gift. Therefore, do not break your bank buying the person a gift they may just end up throwing away anyway.

2. Ask their friends what they like

If this person is important to you, it would be in your best interests to do some research before you go shopping. Talk to the person’s family and friends. Find out what particular thing this person has been talking about lately. Has he or she mentioned a specific item they really want? Are they currently pursuing a specific hobby? This is very valuable information to be aware of because it will make buying a gift for the person much easier. Also, the person will probably notice all of the effort you have put into finding out what they really want. This effort will make the gift even more special to them. If you know someone who collects Jim Shore figurines, there is a nice selection available at http://www.coppinsgifts.com/.

3. Buy something for their job

You may not be able to get any useful information from the person’s family and friends. If this happens, think about their particular job. Is their anything that they use on their job frequently that you could buy for them? For example, if your friend is a contractor, he would probably be thrilled to receive a new drill or nail gun from you as a gift. Every time the person uses your gift, they will think of your thoughtfulness.

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