The Price of Children

,** I got this through e-mail from my friend MJ… I loved it and wanted to share it with you..**

The Price of Children

This is just too good not to pass on to all. Here is something absolutely positive for a change. I have repeatedly seen the breakdown of the cost of raising a child, but this is the first time I have seen the rewards listed this way. It’s nice.

The government recently calculated the cost of raising a child from birth to 18 and came up with R1,681,470.00 for a middle income family. Talk about price shock! That doesn’t even touch college tuition.

But R1,681,470.00 isn’t so bad if you break it down. It translates into:

  • R93414.93 a year,
  • R7784.49 a month,
  • R1796.34 a week.
  • A mere R254.52 a day!
  • Just over R10.50 an hour.

Still, you might think the best financial advice is: don’t have children if you want to be ‘rich.’ Actually, it is just the opposite.

What do you get for your R1,681,470.00?

  • Naming rights. First, middle, and last!
  • Glimpses of God every day.
  • Giggles under the covers every night.
  • More love than your heart can hold.
  • Butterfly kisses and Velcro hugs.
  • Endless wonder over rocks, ants, clouds, and warm cookies.
  • A hand to hold usually covered with jelly or chocolate.
  • A partner for blowing bubbles and flying kites.
  • Someone to laugh yourself silly with, no matter what the boss said or how your stocks performed that day.

For R1,681,470.00, you never have to grow up. You get to:

  • finger-paint,
  • carve pumpkins,
  • play hide-and-seek,
  • catch lightning bugs,
  • never stop believing in Santa Claus.

You have an excuse to:

  • keep reading the Adventures of Piglet and Pooh,
  • watch Saturday morning cartoons,
  • go to Disney movies, and
  • wish on stars.

You get to frame rainbows, hearts, and flowers under refrigerator magnets and collect spray painted noodlewreaths for Christmas, hand prints set in clay for Mother’s Day, and cards with backward letters for Father’s Day.

For a mere R254.52 a day, there is no greater bang for your buck. You get to be a hero just for:

  • retrieving a Frisbee off the garage roof,
  • taking the training wheels off a bike,
  • removing a splinter,
  • filling a paddling pool,
  • coaxing a wad of gum out of hairs, and
  • coaching a rugby team that never wins but always gets treated to ice cream regardless.

You get a front row seat in history to witness the:

  • First step,
  • First word,
  • First bra,
  • First date,
  • First time behind the wheel.

You get to be immortal. You get another branch added to your family tree, and if you’re lucky, a long list of limbs in your obituary called grandchildren and great-grandchildren. You get an education in psychology, nursing, criminal justice, communications, and human sexuality that no college can match..

In the eyes of a child, you rank right up there under God. You have all the power to heal a boo-boo, scare away the monsters under the bed, patch a broken heart, police a slumber party, ground them forever, and love them without limits, so one day they will, like you, love without counting the cost. That is quite a deal for the price!!!!!!!

Love & enjoy your children & grandchildren & great-grandchildren!!!!!!!

It’s the best investment you’ll ever make!!!!!!!!!

Communicating in Your Child’s Love Language

Every child has their own personality and their own way of expressing themselves. In the book, Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman, it has been discussed what are the 5 basic love languages of our children. I think it is important that we found out what is the primary love language of each of our kids so we are certain that we are communicating our love to them more efficiently, right?

The five love languages that Gary Chapman discussed are:

  • Words of Affirmation. People need to hear compliments. Simple “thank you” or “you look wonderful today” is important to this people.
  • Quality Time. People equate love with spending time with them like listening to them, walking, talking and the likes.
  • Physical Touch. People need to be hugged, touched, or sit close together.
  • Receiving Gifts. People need to receive thoughtful, not necessarily expensive, gifts.
  • Acts of Service. People receive love through acts of service like fixing the bed, preparing a meal for them or doing a chore for them.

For adults, it is easy to determine. But for children, we would need to spend some time in studying the habits of our kids. So how can you tell your child’s primary love language? Here are Chapman’s suggestions:

  • Observe how your child expresses love to you.

    Watch your child; he may well be speaking his own language. This is particularly true of a young child, who is very likely to express love to you in the language he desires most to receive.

  • Observe how your child expresses love to others.
    If your child loves to make crafts for relatives or friends this may indicate that her primary love language is Gifts
  • Listen to what your child requests most often.
    If your child often asks questions like “How do I look, Mommy?”, “What do you think of my drawing?”, or “Did you think I did well at practice today?”, this pattern may indicate that his love language is Words of Affirmation.
  • Notice what your child most frequently complains about.
    If you child complaints that “You never have time for me”, “Why don’t you play games with me?”, or “We never do things together” , it would be indicative of the need for Quality Time.
  • Give your child a choice between two options.
    Chapman and Campbell suggests to ask your child to make choices between two love language. For example, “I have some free time Saturday. Would you like me to fix your bike, or would you rather go to the park together and shoot some hoops?”. The choice is between Acts of Service and Quality Time.

    “As you give options for several weeks, keep a record of your child’s choices. If most of them tend to cluster around one of the five love languages, you have likely discovered which one makes your child feel most loved. At times, your child will not want either option, and will suggest something else. You should keep a record of those requests also, since they may give you clues.”

    I am still determining the love language of my kids. How about you?

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