Teaching Your Baby to go to Sleep Without your Help

Teaching your baby to learn to fall asleep independently is one of the most satisfying long-term lessons she can learn. If a baby cannot settle without one of her parents there, bed time becomes a stressful time for all parties. A child that peacefully drifts off to sleep is a pleasure for all, especially when compared to a distraught, wailing baby who is fretful and restless, refusing to settle.

There are no rules set in stone when it comes to getting your baby to go to sleep without parental help. Every infant possesses a different personality and some will naturally sleep well without any intervention, whereas others might have clingier characters and be more demanding.

A new-born’s sleep patterns should never be interfered with. She should be fed and allowed to sleep on demand. This helps to build her trust in her parents and provides a safe and secure environment for her. Over the first few weeks, she will start to develop her own pattern, which can be built on when putting her to bed.

One of the most important aspects of helping your baby to fall asleep on her own is to ensure that bed time is a pleasurable period rather than a traumatic one. When she is old enough to start developing a routine, use this to your advantage by establishing a night-time pattern that you repeat every day.

Start with a warm bath and then dry her off in a secure, peaceful area. Dress her in comfortable night clothes, preferably cotton or other natural fibres and give her a last feed. Try not to let her fall asleep on the bottle, but remove it when she is relaxed and dozing. Place her gently in her cot, ensuring she is warm and cosy. It helps to warm the beds and bed clothes, but never leave any heat source with her. Some babies like a security blanket or favourite toy with them as they fall asleep. Sit where she can clearly see you so that she feels secure and softly read her a story or sing a lullaby. Unless she is poorly or teething, this is usually enough to help her fall asleep.

Many parents rock their baby to sleep in their arms, or use a rocking cot, or let them fall asleep in their arms before putting them in their cot. If this suits your lifestyle and your baby there is nothing wrong with it. All children will eventually learn to sleep on their own. However, if you want to help your baby sleep independently from an earlier age, it is better to establish the routine as soon as you can.

Some experts propound the “let them cry themselves to sleep” method but each parent has to decide for themselves whether this is in the best interests of you and your infant. If you do decide to go with this method, always leave it until after your child is six-months old so that she has established trust in you. Never leave her crying for long. Go back every five minutes or so to reassure her without picking her up. Over a few nights, she will learn to go to sleep alone but be warned it is a stressful method for all concerned!

Just remember that every child is different and that one routine or method will not suit all. By getting to know your baby and her unique personality, you will be able to work out the best and least-stressful ways of establishing independent sleep patterns.

Nap Time Worries

For the past week, my son and I are having disagreements when it comes to his afternoon nap. I wonder, is it time to give up his afternoon nap?

I read Elizabeth Pantley’s comments and advice on this issue. She is the author of the No-Cry Nap solution book.

Signs that your child needs a daily nap:
>Responds in a positive or neutral way to naptime and falls asleep easily
>Usually naps an hour or longer
>Wakes up in the morning in a good mood, but gets whiny and cranky as the day progresses
>Demonstrates coordination deterioration over the course of the day – can’t manage a puzzle as well, falls down more often, or gets clumsy.
>Late in the day becomes wired up or hyper-active and won’t settle down easily
>Often falls asleep in the car or when watching a movie
>Has a difficult time waking up in the morning, or wakes up grumpy

Signs that your child no longer needs a nap (but still might benefit from a daily rest break):
>Has a consistent personality from morning until bedtime
>Learns new things easily and has an appropriate attention span for his age
>Goes to bed at a reasonable time and sleeps well all night long
>When she is put in bed for a nap she rarely falls asleep
>On the days when he naps, he takes a long time to fall asleep that night, or goes to bed much later than usual
>Generally wakes up on her own and in a pleasant mood
>Sleeps the number of total sleep hours shown on the Sleep Chart almost every night

I think my son is still in the transition phase.. there are days he might no longer need to nap but there are days… he definitely needs to nap!

Our Bedtime Routine

Sleep is one of the most important factors in releasing growth hormones, most especially for very young babies.While your baby sleeps, her little body produces 3x more growth hormones.

The good news is there is a way to promote better sleep for your baby: through a consistent nightly bedtime routine.

Learn more about the JOHNSON´S® Baby Bedtime Routine, clinically proven to stretch your baby´s sleep by as much as 23%.

In addition to the JOHNSON´S® Baby Bedtime Routine and products, there are countless other ways you can help your baby fall asleep and even share bonding moments in the process!

When my kids were still babies, we established a bed time routine. We would take a warm bath after dinner, put some lotion, change to night time clothes, play or do some coloring, read books and say a prayer and then lights off. Now that they are bigger, we still have the same routine and it helps calm them down so that they are ready for bed. We try to get them in bed by 8PM since they wake up before 7AM usually.
I certainly believe that establishing a bedtime routine helps babies and kids to fall asleep on their own and gives them the rest that each of them needs.
I am so grateful to have been given the opportunity to be a hands on mom and I was able to witness this part of their life!

Co-Sleeping Is For Us!

Until now, we are still co-sleeping with our kids. We love it that we can enjoy sleeping together in our queen sized bed. To accomodate the kids, we attached a single bed beside our bed. Maybe when the kids are bigger, we can buy twin beds for them and put them on the other room. As of now, sharing one room is the best option. Not only do we enjoy this stage of our kids but we also can lower our electricity expenses, as we use only 1 aircon or fan. Anyway, I am not in a hurry to send them to their rooms as I am sure that the day will come when they want to stay in their own rooms already.


Do you think co-sleeping is okay? Until what age should co-sleeping be acceptable?

Co-sleeping means the kids are sleeping with their parents on the same bed. In our case, my eldest has been co-sleeping with us since she was 11 months old. While my son was 6 months old, when he started co-sleeping with us. Until now, Kyla is already 5 years old while Toby is 2, we are still co-sleeping.

At the beginning, I didn’t really plan on co-sleeping but as it turned out, it was easier for me since I was breastfeeding Toby for 22 months. And now, I enjoy sleeping beside my kids. Waking up beside them and being close to them. I am not sure until what age we would be co-sleeping but for now, I am just enjoying being close to them for I know 1 day, they would surely want their own bed and their own room.