What Can I Do To Make Your Day Better?

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I was surprised to see this note tucked in between my planner yesterday. My daughter Kyla has inserted this note as she remembered the challenge posted by the pastor (who is her dad) last Sunday.

“What can I do to make your day better?” Such a simple question that we rarely ask inside our house as all of us are busy with our own chores, our own interests and our own little corner. Because of this, we are reminded to intentionally connect to other people and do something to make them feel better.

We are called to be less self-absorbed and think of others more. Just as Jesus did as described in Philippians 2:7 “but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.” This is but a simple way of loving others more and ourself a little less.

I answered by telling her I’d like to her take Charlie for a walk while she replied that she wants us to play a boardgame together. I didn’t realize that it was so simple to make someone’s day a lot better just by asking this simple question.

Now it’s your turn, tell me, what can I do to make your day better?

 

 

 

 

Fully Satisfied in Him

In our fast paced life and materialistic world, we are enticed to think that we need the latest gadgets to be able to live a more organized and connected life. We are enticed to think that we need to enroll our children at that program so they can become the best in what they do. We are enticed to think that we need to do more to become better people in our society.

But sadly, in our own pursuit of happiness, this is not what God intends for us. Yes, God wants us to be blessed, but not in the way we thought. We might not be aware of how God has been blessing us because we have been looking at life through the wrong lenses.

As we face our daily life, we make hundreds of choices. Each of those choices yield results and we make more choices out of those choices. It may seem endless and futile but God wants us to see beyond our daily toil. God blesses us with His presence amidst our daily choices. As we completely surrender our cares and our days to Him, He promises to be with us – always. Whatever happens to us, God is with us, thus we are blessed.

His presence brings peace, joy, goodness, love,  and hope in our lives. And that is the fullness that fills our lives. We become fully satisfied in Him and regardless of our life’s circumstances, we know and we can acknowledge that we are blessed.

Our pursuit in life takes a different direction as we realize, in the end, what truly matters is the state of our relationship to God. Because if our relationship with God is doing well then everything else falls in the proper places in our lives. We can be fully satisfied because God is with us.

 

On White Strands and Gray Hair

A few weeks ago, I have noticed a few strands of white hair. I was contemplating on removing them but eventually I didn’t. It didn’t really bother me that I have white strands but what it represented filled my thoughts.

White strands confirmed that I was indeed getting old. I wasn’t the young mom that I have been used to. My children are no longer small. Half of my life has probably been lived.

How do I want to continue on as I age? Are there goals that I still want to achieve? What legacy do I want to leave behind?

Contemplating on these questions – I want to continue focusing on what Christ has tasked me to do which is to become more like Him and to make disciples. Here are some goals which I have listed as we started this school year.

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I pray that may I be  a good steward with the gift of life that God has blessed me with. May the Lord help me to number my days right that I may gain a heart of wisdom.

So that when the gray hair become more noticeable, I can claim what the scripture says from Proverbs 20:29 “The glory of the young is their strength; the gray hair of experience is the splendor of the old.”

Handling Differences in Marriage

Upon getting married 14 years ago, I didn’t have a clue how different my husband and I were. We were both working in the IT industry, we both loved watching movies and dining out together and we both served the Lord in ministry in the same church. We generally wanted the same things in life and we loved each other. We were surrounded by our family and friends.

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As the days of the first years of marriage pass by, I realized that we were more different than similar. He was messy inside the house while I wanted an orderly one. He likes spicy and flavorful food while I like plain. He makes decisions impulsively and is very action oriented while I take time to decide and is more detail oriented. He looks forward to achieving his goal and seeing things done while I enjoy the journey and take my time doing things according to my schedule. He’d rather rest and sleep for vacation while I would rather travel and do some sight seeing. He needs time to spend away from the house to focus while I wondered why he had to spend money over a cup of coffee which I incidentally don’t drink. You get the idea.

If I were to wallow on our differences, I think we’d have separated by now on the grounds of irreconcilable differences. But because I believe that what God has put together man shall not separate, I looked upon what God wants me to learn from our differences. Instead of focusing how it makes me feel, or how different we were, I chose to listen to God. I prayed that God would reveal to me what I should do from my end so that our marriage would work.

I learned to be thankful. Instead of complaining of what my husband can’t do or what he doesn’t do, I chose to look upon the blessings that God has given me through him. He is a good cook – which I am not, he makes decisions quickly – which I don’t usually do, he is strong in the areas that I am weak. I realized that God put us together because He wants both of us to change and become more like Christ in and through our married life.

I learned to choose my battles. Instead of nagging all the time, I would let God deal with him. Pray for him so that he can be who God wants Him to be. Don’t get me wrong – I don’t pray so he can be changed for me but I pray that change would happen so that he would know Jesus more in his own life.  I believe that way, things will be better for us too. For the things which are important to me, those I call the non-negotiables, I let him know. Time spent with family and the kids are important so I am vocal about that but for the minor issues, I just let it pass. Communication is vital for our relationship to thrive and so that we can give what we need from each other and be respectful of each other.

Lastly, I learned that commitment takes humility and love.  It is not only about being there to celebrate the joys of life, but it is about being there through the darkest days of your partner. It is not only being able to tell what or how  you feel but it is about being able to listen without judging him. It is not only seeing the positive side of your spouse but accepting his weaknesses as well.

I believe that marriage works because Jesus is the center of it all. We as husbands and wives need to connect with Jesus intimately so we can be better husbands and wives and in turn raise healthy families. Let us turn to Jesus today.

 

It’s All About Changes

This year, it’s all about changes.

After 5 years with Bluehost, I have decided to move to another blog host provider. In a few months, I also hope to change my blog theme since I don’t think the logo is reflective of my current season as a mom anymore.

Motherhood has changed as well as my daughter has now entered pre-teens and is experiencing physical changes as well. She has also become more independent and I need to be able to balance being a protective mother to one that allows her to experience some independence.

We are also now enrolling my daughter in another ballet school and it does require some changes and adjustments in our schedules.

We are also opting to change our school year calendar, we will begin in September and hopefully end before June next school year.

My husband’s direction in life is undergoing changes as well.

All these changes are happening simultaneously and I feel that God wants me to grow out of these process. Sometimes I feel lost and unsure, but I need to listen and realize what God is telling me and learn from it.

I am not fond of changes — but I am grateful that through these changes, I can see how constant and faithful God is to me.