My Adventures at Home

sahmAs a stay at home mom for the past 11 years, I have learned to fix my schedule so I can attend to the needs of my family, do household chores and have some alone time each day. It was really important that I learned to adjust through the phase of our life and be flexible.

I am sharing this since I have received some emails asking me how I manage my time as a stay at home mom.

When my kids were below 2 years old, we have hired a stay in helper to do the household chores for me. I was hands-on with my babies and attended to their needs by myself. I slept when the babies slept and enjoyed our breastfeeding sessions. When I had to go out, I made sure I was back in 2 hours. There was little time for me to do any sort of work since caring for babies was round the clock.

When my kids were above 2, we no longer hired a stay in helper. I began to do the household chores by myself. I woke up early so I can clean the house and wash the laundry. When I say clean the house, I only sweep the floor and wipe the surfaces. Then the kids wake up and I prepare breakfast for them. Made sure they cleaned up and played with them shortly. Then they took their nap and I prepared lunch. Then its lunch time. In the afternoon, they take longer naps and I can do more cleaning at the house, like cleaning the bathroom, changing bedsheets and fixing the clutter. There are days that I get to blog, or read books during this time. When they wake up, I spend my time with the kids again. We usually have the same meal as what we had during lunch so I dont need to prepapre new dish anymore. After dinner, we clean up and have time to read together and do some fun activity before calling it a night. Then afterwards, when the kids are sleeping, I get to spend time with my husband.

 

There are some household chores that I dont do by myself to avoid burnout. I ask help for specialized services such as ironing of clothes, carpet cleaning from Green Choice Carpet of Brooklyn or cleaning the garden.

It has been pretty much our routine at home and now that the kids have grown, they are helping me with the household chores. They are able to play by themselves too so I have more time to read, work online and do what I have to do.

Don’t stress yourself out. It is important to realize that while the kids are small, they would need your attention but it doesn’t last forever and it is only for a certain season. I truly believe that the secret to enjoying being a stay at home mom is managing your expectations and using your time wisely.

 

 

Reflections of A Stay At Home Mom

After being a full time stay at home mom for almost  10 years, I can honestly say that managing the household is much like running your own corporation. You need to have good managerial skills to ensure that the family’s schedule don’t get too busy or overlap with one another. Financial skills is needed to ensure that you don’t go over the budget and that money is being used properly. Good decision making is crucial to make sure that wise decisions are made every day in every area of life so that the family operates the best possible way.

As a homemaker, there are days that I find my work tedious and repetitive. Cleaning the house, cooking the meals, washing the dishes, doing the laundry and fixing the mess around is not as glamorous as working in an air conditioned office or consolidating reports for your boss. In fact, there are days that I also have to clean the toilets, the garden and make sure that no pests are lurking around the house. If needed and if finances allow, I get extra help to make sure I cover the things that I can not do like calling extermination dorval to help me elimiante pests. On top of all these, I also homeschool and spend time with my children.

As I look back at the past years, I realized I have no awards to show. I don’t have any achievements that I can boast about. But by the grace of God, I look at our family and these are the people who I have invested my energy, my time and my passion. I see how the children have grown over the years and how my husband has been able to pursue his calling in his life. All of life’s milestones, the answered prayers, the struggles and trials we had to face each day together and the Lord’s faithfulness are what kept me going all these years.

The tedious and repetitive tasks that I do are all done out of love and service to my family. During tough days, I know that I have fulfilled what God has tasked me to do and that is enough to encourage me to go on. That decision to become a stay at home mom several years ago has allowed me to grow in ways I couldn’t have imagined, probably even more than when I was still working my way up on the corporate ladder.

I do not know what our future may bring but today, as I look back at the choice I made almost 10 years ago, I am blessed by where God has led my family. My heart is full.

How To Enjoy Staying at Home With Your Kids

When I started my journey as a stay at home mom 9 years ago, I didn’t know what to expect. All I knew was that I wanted to personally care for my child and be there as she grows up. I knew that my lifestyle was about to change and I needed to learn new skills to become effective at home.

I didn’t know how to cook. I never had taken care of an infant before. I didn’t know how to manage the household. I didn’t know where to start. Looking after children below 5 and staying at home is not easy. The schedule can get pretty full and there are so many chores that needs to be done. How can you, as a mom, enjoy staying at home with your kids, when there are so many things that needs to be done at home?

Here are some lessons I have learned over the years:
1. Hire help. You can hire outside help to come at least once a week to your place to help clean up. Just like those carpet cleaner nyc services from the States, you can call someone to clean up your lawn for you, clean the bathroom or do some major cleaning around the house.

2. Plan your day. Make sure you do the important chores for the day and leave the things you can do later for another day. Errands that needs to be done before due date like electricity bills, grocery chores and credit card payments need to be done first.

3. Schedule a “me time” each day. Whether it is an hour of reading a book, watching movies or being online, you need to schedule a time that you do something that can help you relax.

4. Learn to say “no”. You shouldn’t be joining all activities since this can cause additional stress to your family life. Prioritize which social activities are necessary and important.

5. Don’t be afraid to learn new skills. Whenever there are things that you don’t know, don’t fret. Look at it as opportunities to learn new skills and grow as a person.

Amidst all the horror stories we have been hearing, staying at home can be an enjoyable experience. We just need to learn to balance and prioritize.

Do leave a comment if you have any other tips you’d like to share.

Job as a Stay at Home Mom

People always have a misconception that moms who stay at home have all the time in the world to do everything they want. While it is true that you don’t have to report for work and have a flexible time at hand, staying at home needs managerial and administrative skills! Time management and project management are skills that you often use. Making sure that the kids are on time for their activities, calculating whether there is enough time for the food to be cooked before everyone else leaves or wakes up, running around town to pay bills and do chores at home. Other moms still have a part time work at home like researching for stuff and Diet pills that work fast! Being a stay at home mom for the past 7 years, I can say that this job is just as tiring and just as technical a job as the job I had before.