Giving Instruction

Here is another parenting I would like to share with you. We all need to give instructions to our children… Hope you find this article useful.

The word “instruction” comes from the words “in” and “structure” and basically means “to put structure into.” When someone comes on the scene and gives instructions, that person brings structure to the situation and helps people know what to do. Dad or Mom sees the need to clean up around the house or get ready to go out and begins giving instructions to move the family in a positive direction.

The parent adds the structure needed at the moment to make family life work. Unfortunately, because of the well-worn relationship between parent and child, kids may react with resistance. At that point parents often become more intense in their instruction or just give up. What was meant to be a move toward order and structure has turned relationships into chaos.

Remember that you’re not giving instructions just to make your life easier. You’re bringing the much-needed structure into the situation. If you don’t provide the structure, who will? Of course, the way you give instructions affects the strength of your relationships with others, but don’t let resistance keep you from your job. Without instruction, family life falls apart.

“But they don’t appreciate me,” is an excuse parents sometimes tell themselves that motivates them to want to give up. The fact is, that whether they appreciate you or not, they need you! So, continue to work on your own attitude and frustration level, but hang in there and keep giving the much-needed structure to your family.

Proverbs 19:16 says, “He who obeys instructions guards his life.”

This parenting tip comes from the book, Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.


  1. march on... says

    Thanks for sharing this. I personally believe that giving instructions to kids and let them do their own diskarte helps them become independent thinkers, improves their cognitive skills and teaches them how to do things properly.

  2. Jessica Heights says

    That's a good article…thanks for sharing!

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