Homeschool Myth: No Socialization

When we were deciding if we should homeschool our kids, one of the questions that I had in my mind was “what about socialization? I have a shy daughter and if we homeschooled, wouldn’t her socialization skills be hampered even more?”

While it is true that children will learn some socialization skills among their peers (vertical socialization), it’s not the good kind of socialization all the time. They will also pick up bad habits, undergo bullying, and peer pressure at a young age. Though homeschool would protect the child from unnecessary problems while young, it is not meant to shelter them from realities of life, but simply to prepare them. While they are at home, they develop socialization skills between the siblings and the parents (vertical socialization). The children will learn to speak appropriately and cooperate with different ages rather than only with their peers. Respecting each other and learning to cooperate with one another would be more prevalent.

Aside from daily socialization with family, the kids also have some time to mingle with peers during Sunday School and support/play group time.

 

I also did some research and here are some statistics that I found this from an article:

“When measured against the average Canadians ages 15 to 34 years old, home-educated Canadian adults ages 15 to 34 were more socially engaged (69 percent participated in organized activities at least once per week, compared with 48 percent of the comparable population). Average income for home-schoolers also was higher, but perhaps more significantly, while 11 percent of Canadians ages 15 to 34 rely on welfare, there were no cases of government support as the primary source of income for home-schoolers. Home-schoolers also were happier; 67.3 percent described themselves as very happy, compared with 43.8 percent of the comparable population. Almost all of the home-schoolers — 96 percent — thought home-schooling had prepared them well for life.”

My daughter has been homeschooling for almost 2 years now, and I have seen her grow in the area of socialization. Naturally an introvert, I see that she has grown more confident now and has also developed some friendships already.

The no socialization issue is a non issue at all. As your child grows, you will see that he or she has developed in  wisdom, in stature and in favor  with God and man.

Comments

  1. Hi Mommy. This is very helpful. I do have friends who are homeschooling their kids as well for the same reason of picking up bad habits or being bullied in school. So far, the kids are really smart and focused on their studies since it’s their parents who teach them at home. Either way, I still believe that parents know what’s best for their kids. I admire parents who attend to their kids’ needs in every aspect of their lives. I was actually in a debate before on what’s gonna happen with their social life with kids in their same age. Good thing that there are other venues to where they can still mingle and play with other kids like in the church or parties as what you said so I came to think that homeschooling is really a good choice. Maybe, when I finally have kids on my own, I’ll consider homeschooling them since I am a preschool teacher by profession.

    Thank you so much for this wonderful post. I’ve learned something new today.
    Please don’t mind my blog post-like comment. LOL!

    Have a nice day!
    Rona
    http://www.ronareviews.com

  2. I was homeschooled. I am the most social person in the world. So are my brothers! Our professions today are all related to connectivity, social media and bringing people together; we’re inherent marketers and mavens. AND we were all homeschooled. That’s because homeschooling broke barriers for us in terms of what was the status quo. We got to be mentored by real people we looked up to, not just our peers. I wouldn’t trade our homeschool experience for one that’s dictated by society as “correct” or “normal.”
    🙂

  3. I was also looking into homeschooling. But my hubby isn’t for it. And this is myth is one of the reasons why. Another is that homeschooling and sending the kids to school need the same amount of money, but homeschooling is more tiring for me. What do you think?

    • homeschooling your children requires more from the parents. that is certainly true but the investment that you make will be worth it in the end. 🙂

  4. I suppose that there is a certain stereotype homeschooler in the minds of many people. And I admit that I was too often called a shy kid when I was a lot younger. But I remember one recent coincidence when I met a girl a little older than myself at the tennis court of my neighborhood and got into a friendly conversation with her. When she found out that I had been homeschooled since day one, she gave me a surprised look and said it had never crossed her mind that I was a homeschooler. I asked why. She replied, “You’re not shy at all.” Honestly, I didn’t know if whether what she said was complimentary or insulting. 😀

  5. I really want my to homeschool my son next school year and i am praying hard about it. Maybe you could give us tips on how you manage your time. Hehe. I wanna be inspired!

    And oh, do you have a house helper? Just curious! 🙂

    Thanks for the info.

    • Hello!

      I don’t have a house helper at home 🙂
      So we usually start our classes before 10am… and we finish around 330pm in the afternoon (for my grade 2). that is inclusive of lunch break of course.
      I will write more about this topic soon!

  6. Hi Chris,
    I really admire parents who homeschool their kids. I’ve been thinking about that but just like one of your readers above, my hubby has apprehensions. And my kids already like going to school. 🙁

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