I have found a new blog through The 10 Days Series which is organized by iHomeschool Network. Finding Joy is posting about intentional parenting so I joined her 10 day challenge.
On the first day, the focus was being awake or being aware. It’s a simple exercise in examining what you do well and what you’d like to see change. It is an honest evaluation of our life, and how not to become distracted by our everyday life.
The exercise for this first day was to list down 5 things which I love about how I mother. Here’s my answer :
> reading time with the kids every day
> asking questions and making the kids think and reflect
> listening to their answers and getting to know more about the kids
> doing an activity which interests each child (drawing, coloring, playing)
> supporting my kids interest
The next exercise is to list down what 5 things do I want to change about how I mother?
> control time in front of the computer or iPhone. no gadget usage when kids need my total attention.
> read more books for self-growth and homeschooling needs.
> not to project “angry” or “mad” image to them. don’t sweat the small stuff.
> prioritize what is important.
> speak more lovingly and don’t raise my voice.
The parent’s activity for this day was to spend 10 minutes with each child. I acknowledge that I used to spend many hours just playing with the kids when they were younger but as the years passed by, even if I am a stay at home mom, I realized that I don’t play with them anymore and do the fun things that they enjoy doing. Perhaps that is why I project that I am “always mad” even if I am not. I must not let house chores and the things that I need to do come in between us. I didn’t want to miss these moments – whether it is doing something goofy or wearing heated gloves or pretending to be animals or just dancing with them.
I intentionally didn’t turn on the computer and played animals and cars with my son. I focused on playing pretend with him. I conversed with my daughter and read books together. It was definitely a good start.
I would like invite you to journey with me for 1o days on this road of intentional parenting. We can all learn and grow together to become the parents that God has called us to be.