Mommy Moments – Balancing Work and Family

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Ever since the summer break started, the kids have been having loads of fun playing most of the day, doing a bit of writing and arts and I have been busy with all sorts of writing over my computer. My son told me yesterday that I haven’t been playing with them and I have been really busy with my work over the computer. This really made me realize that even if I am a stay at home mom, I need to be conscious of the way I use my time, especially when my kids are around. I need to attend to them and spend time with them – otherwise, I have lost the very reason why I wanted to stay at home in the first place.

It is a conscious decision and it is hard to balance work and family, especially when you are home. It takes discipline and organization skills to make it work. I have been a stay at home mom for the past 8 years now, but I have never perfected the balance. It has been a daily battle. I need to choose to prioritize what really matters.

Here are some tips that I would like to share with you moms who find it hard to balance work and family, especially when you are staying at home:

Know your priorities. List them down if needed so that you would be reminded of them daily.

– Schedule your day. If possible, use planners or schedule maker to make sure that no activities are overlapping.

– Don’t spread yourself too thin. Be wary of multi-tasking. Often multi-tasking produces work with less quality.

– Focus on what you are doing. If it is time to play with the kids or do arts with them, leave all your gadgets and turn off your computer. Give them your complete attention.

– Plan. But if your plan fails, don’t give up. Often times, our mistakes will teach us what we need to learn so we can be better at what we do.

– Pray. Commit your day to the Lord.

It is never an easy choice but if we really want to be there for our kids, we need to be intentional with our actions and choose the road less traveled.

Do you have other tips that you’d like to share?

Comments

  1. Your post reconfirmed what I have thought of about being a stay-at-home mom – it’s not easy. But these tips tell that staying at home taking care of kids and doing other responsibilities is also possible.

  2. great tips, mommy chris! sometimes, when i’m too busy with my work and almost have no time to play with the kids, i remind myself why i stayed home in the first place. it’s to be with my kids. so i always try to be ‘mentally and emotionally present’ for them as much as i can.

  3. I’m bad at scheduling and planning. You’re correct that multi-tasking sometimes sacrifices the quality of the work you’re doing. Thanks for this Chris. I was busy but I posted again for Mommy Moments. =)

  4. i’m a WOHM but I definitely do not think that SAHM have it better. I did the SAHM stint during my maternity leave and it is not easy to balance. you tend to “let go” of the important things you need to do and before you know it, the day is over. thanks for sharing your tips Chris!

  5. Agree on all points, Chris! There’s a time when we just need to “drop everything and play” so the kids feel that we value their needs and are really there for them, not just being present since we’re home everyday. It’s a challenge not to be distracted with the computer and other stuff.

  6. If I may add, I make it a point to have them play outside the house, just for a change of environment — for me and for the kids! 🙂 Kidzville is our new favorite “hangout”, but it’s not too friendly on the wallet!!! hehehe

  7. Totally agree, I am the same way. Sometimes I get busy with online task and have few little time to play with them. Guilty as charged wahhh.

  8. great tips mommy! Thanks for sharing I badly need to balance online work and family…

  9. Great tips, Chris! I particularly like this one: “Focus on what you are doing. If it is time to play with the kids or do arts with them, leave all your gadgets and turn off your computer. Give them your complete attention.” This is hard for me to do, especially when I have a lot of work to finish, but you’re also right in saying that we should prioritize, so if it’s time to play with my kid, then he should have my full attention.

  10. Embrace imperfection and make sure that you include self care in your daily routine. Making conscious choices is powerful. Keep up the great tips.

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