Value of Learning to Obey

Obedience doesn’t come naturally to us. When you become a parent, you would notice that you don’t even need to teach your kids to disobey, they naturally learn to do it themselves. Oftentimes, as parents, it takes a lot of hard work and time for us to teach and train our children to become obedient.

Why do we need to teach them obedience? What is its value? I took the following excerpt from the book Home Improvement, The Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

“Children need to learn to obey, but not merely to make their parents’ lives easier. We don’t teach kids to obey for our own convenience. We teach obedience because hidden within that character quality are a number of principles that will help children to be successful in life.

When kids learn obedience, they learn to consider the needs of others. They learn to be a little less selfish. They learn to fit into the agenda of those around them. They learn to submit to authority.

Obedience involves learning to do what you’re asked even when you think you have a better way. The person who has learned obedience knows how to listen to an instruction, how to follow through without being watched, and how to report back when the job is done.

The children who learn obedience when they’re young will make better students and better employees when they get older. Furthermore, they will be happier and enjoy life more.

We’re not talking about blind obedience. We want our children to learn to evaluate instructions; but evaluating instructions is an advanced skill. First children must learn cooperation; otherwise they end up believing that every time they don’t like a request, they’re justified to resist it. These children remain selfish and grow up to be whiners and complainers, not able to receive an instruction without an argument.”

Do you have some tips you can share about teaching obedience to your kids?


  1. I love this post, Mommy Chris! 🙂 Thank you for sharing. Obedience is definitely an issue with us in our family and it is really challenging to get kids to obey. But by God’s grace, we can do it, right? Thanks for the reminders through your post! God bless!

  2. Honestly, I am having a hard time making my 6-year-old son obey me. Haha! Oftentimes, I use reward system to make him follow what I tell him to do. Hopefully, he’ll outgrow his whining and complaining soon.

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