Now that my kids are older, I don’t get the cute little cards that I used to get. The parenting dynamics have also changed since it’s not focused on diaper changes, play time or reading together anymore. There are days that I get a lot of questions like why the world is the way it is, why everyone has to work hard and whats going to happen…
My children indeed have grown. If you told me 10 years ago that time would pass by so fast, I wouldn’t have believed you because I was mostly physically tired during those early years of parenting. From not being able to sleep through the night to nurturing the family throughout the day, I was happy doing all of these for my family but I was also physically exhausted. Now that my children don’t need me as much physically as they can now do things on their own, I am no longer physically drained. But I learned that I need to continue to be intentional in spending time with them and building that relationship with the children. I need to be present with them. I need to be engaged with them. As they enter their preteen years, I am learning that parenting has become more emotional, mental and spiritual.
We need to have fun and relaxing times together as much as we need to go through hard work and stressful moments. There should be a balance between being strict and being fun. I also need to listen to the questions they ask and answer them truthfully and really listen to the questions that they are not asking as well. I must inspire them to be who God has called them to be and help them through their own insecurities as they slowly discover themselves.
I used to think that parenting would be easier as they grew but I was naive to think that. Parenting is a relationship so it is dynamic and changes over time. Truly, God is changing me each day as I continue on with parenting. I’m learning to discern what God wants me to focus on and what to let go and to trust in the work of the Lord in the lives of my family as well.
As I celebrate my 12th mother’s day tomorrow, I am grateful for the motherhood journey that the Lord has allowed me to take and I am thankful that as I continue on this path, the Lord is constantly maturing me to be the woman He wants me to be.